I wrote the title of this post, then I thought to myself do I really want to talk about this stuff on here. Maybe because it’s one of those very personal things and I find it very complex subject for people understand.
Let’s rewind to when I actually made this decision. As you may already know I made a decision to follow Christ when I was 15. From there I made a commitment to God not to date until I’m ready for marriage (or until HE brings the one) and I’ve stuck to that commitment ever since by HIS grace. I wanted GOD to have all my focus because I was a little bit ditzy with guys at that age. Since that commitment guys have been either in the bro or friend zone, nothing more. It doesn’t mean I don’t find some of the guys I meet very attractive (I’m 100% human). However, my commitment to God means more to me than having a good looking face for a couple of months. One of my favourite preachers taught me, “Watch that you are not treated like a tomato at a market stall. Be the tomato that is only picked once” But until then best believe I’ll be making the most of this time.It’s a time for me to grow, explore and have fun.
You may be thinking, “Well you need to test drive a few before you make a decision to buy.” Firstly that isn’t biblical and let’s be honest there are a lot of ladies that have chosen to take this route and ended up as baby mamas, infectious or heart broken. Quite frankly none of the above are appealing to me. I don’t believe in kissing every frog until I meet the prince. I would rather wait for the prince even however long he will take and even if he doesn’t come, the princess will build a castle and live happily ever after.
2) I don’t believe in preparing myself for a long term commitment being in a series of short-term relationships. It’s like preparing for a marathon by doing 100metre sprints. The little sprints don’t prepare you for the long run because your mind is programmed to finish after 100 metres. This makes you more susceptible to quit the race.
3) I’m unapologetically enjoying this time in my life. Every season in life there is a purpose.As for me, this is my season of self-discovery, exploration, and growth.It’s all about the purpose driven warrior vibes. Does that mean I never feel the pressure to be in a relationship sometimes? Of course, I do now more than ever as many friends and family around are tying the knot but I always remember to focus on the bigger picture.
This is just a snippet but I one day write a deeper revelation I got from the bible and books I’ve read on the whole concept of dating.
In the meantime, I hope this post gave you food for thought.
For any females reading this searching for love in all the wrong dudes, I hope you know you that GOD loves you more than any other male ever will. You are precious in HIS eyes. Don’t allow yourself to be treated as someone’s second best EVER…
Romans 8:38-39 King James Version (KJV)
38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
With love always….